Wedding planning is supposed to be a wonderful time in your life, but more often than not, it can be very stressful. There are lots of decisions to make, and not everyone will always agree on everything. Here are just a couple of things that will make you get through the planning process as easy as possible.
1. Do What You Can Early
If you can do something early, go ahead and do it early. If you know you want glow sticks for your reception, order them early on. If you want the best wedding hashtags, brainstorm while it’s early and write all the ideas down. In the last couple of months, you’re going to be spending so much money that you might have to lose all the cute things you wanted because you didn’t plan properly.
You’re both going to have things that matter to you more than your fiancé. Florals might be your thing, where music is more of his focus. Figure out what you’re both passionate about in the process, and let the other one go with it.
3. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
There are so many things you guys really don’t need to be worrying about. Take it easy, and if your old college roommate can’t make it to the wedding, it’s not the biggest deal in the world.
4. Don’t Forget To Have Sex
Talk about a great stress reliever. It’s so cliche, but it’s the best way to stay connected during a time that can be stressful.
5. One Thing At A Time
Don’t do too much at once. You two need to only tackle one thing at a time. When you do too much, you’ll miss deals and tend to make decisions impulsively.
6. Don’t Forget What This Is All About
You two! This is a celebration of love and a life together. It’s not about the chicken picatta or your mother-in-law. Remember what this day is for.
7. Be A Team
You two are in this together. While most of the time, the bride tends to run the show in the planning process, it doesn’t mean the groom should be left out.
8. Stop Trying To Please Everyone
The one thing I’ve learned halfway into the planning process is that someone is going to be offended by everything. These people are not important. From friends being upset they were not picked to be in the wedding party, to freeloaders who will complain about your buffet, you cannot, and will not, please everyone. The sooner you accept that, the better.
This is so important; it should be on here twice. Write it down if you have to. What is the most important part of this wedding for you? The food? The dancing? Make a list — this can coincide with your budget and will also help alleviate stress.
10. Don’t Stress
Take a bath, girl. Stressing out is literally the worst thing you guys can do during the planning. This is supposed to be an enjoyable time for you, and wasting it stressing is such a disappointment. Lean on your significant other to keep you balanced if you’re the one who is normally stressing out.
11. Know It Will All Work Out
Striving for perfection is often what can make things crumble when it comes to planning, so you need to know and trust that everything is going to work out.
12. Don’t Worry About Perfection
First of all, everyone has a different definition of perfection. Your perfect is not another person’s. Second of all, everything is not going to be perfect at the wedding; it just doesn’t happen, and you need to accept that. The sooner you do, the more you’ll enjoy the planning and lose tons of stress.
13. Be Present
You need to live in the moment during this process. It’s so easy to get lost in all of it, and you have to remember to remain present.
14. Take Your Time
Most engagements last about a year, so if that’s the case for you, do not rush. Doing too much at once is going to overwhelm you, and you might make decisions you’ll regret later down the line when it’s too late.
15. Work Out Your Budget
Most couples wait too long into the planning process to decide on a budget. You get so excited in the beginning, so you might spend a little extra on things without really thinking about it. Before you book or hire anyone, it’s best to decide on your budget.