You’ve been single, and now you’re ready to find love. But before you dive head-first into a serious relationship, there are some things that you should ask yourself first. If you want to know what these questions are, keep reading!
What is your past relationship history like?
If you’ve had a lot of past relationships, or if they’ve all been short-lived, it’s important to consider why that might be. Ask yourself:
- What is my past relationship history like? How many relationships have I been in? How long did they last? Have I ever broken up with anyone before? Have other people broken up with me? Are there any patterns here that can tell me what kind of person I am in relationships?
- What did I learn from my past relationships (and from getting out of them)? Are there certain lessons that stick out as being more important than others—either positive or negative ones? If so, how can I apply these lessons to new situations for better outcomes moving forward.
Are you still friends with exes?
Asking yourself this question will help you determine whether you are ready to get into a new relationship.
It is important to be able to move on from your past relationships and not carry baggage from them into new ones. If that is not the case, then it may be best not to start a new relationship until such time that you are able to respect your exes and move on in peace.
Why are you single?
If you are single, there may be a reason why. If you’re not sure what that reason is, it can be helpful to consider how you got to this point and what your current reality looks like. The following questions can help:
- Why am I single? What does my life look like when I’m not in a relationship?
- Am I clear on what I need from a relationship and what kind of person would meet those requirements?
- Do I have the courage to communicate this with others or do I get nervous when dating someone new?
How do you feel about being in a long-distance relationship?
Do you and your partner want to be in a long-distance relationship? If the answer is no, then don’t do it. It’s better to end things now than live out a doomed relationship that can never go anywhere. However, if both of you are willing to make it work, then there’s no reason not to give this type of romance a shot.
Just remember: during the beginning stages of any relationship (long distance or otherwise), there will always be some degree of uncertainty and doubt as each person learns more about their partner by getting closer together physically and emotionally. You’ll have a chance to learn more about how they communicate with others while they’re away, but be patient with them since they’ll likely have some growing pains as well (just like any other new experience). In the meantime, you can take care of yourself and learn more about how to become a better person.
What would you be looking for in a partner?
A relationship is a partnership, so it’s important to know what you’re looking for in a partner and how you want to work with them. The best way to do this is by thinking about the qualities that matter most to you.
What are the things that matter most when choosing your friends? What kind of traits would you find attractive in people that are important in a friendship? Do you like someone who’s funny, kind, honest, or outgoing? These qualities might also be important in a romantic relationship if they’re qualities that make up who the person is as an individual rather than just superficial traits like their hair color or eye color.
Sometimes we get into relationships because we think we have something else going for us. Maybe one person has money and another has looks but neither of those things makes up for being lazy or mean-spirited or dishonest—it may seem like those things just aren’t very important at first but over time they become very hard habits to break once they’ve been formed!
Have you ever cheated on your partner or been cheated on?
If you have cheated on your partner, or been cheated on, it’s important to be honest and open about the experience. Being able to talk about it will help in two ways. First, it will help you understand what went wrong with your relationship and how you want your future relationships to be different. Second, it will allow you to process what happened so that you can move forward with confidence and integrity.
If a previous relationship was ended by cheating or being cheated on, ask yourself:
- What was missing in our relationship that made me seek out this other person?
- How did I feel when my partner found out about my indiscretion? Were they hurt? Angry? Disappointed? Did they forgive me or end up leaving me because I could not change my behavior? Why did they react that way?
- What happened when we discussed this issue together; did we resolve anything or just forget about it until another incident occurred later down the road (if so then why)?
Assess Yourself
Before you get into a serious relationship, it’s important to ask yourself these questions to ensure that it’s really what you want.
- Do I have the energy and time for this?
- Is this person someone I can see myself living within five years? Ten years? Fifty-five years…and so on.
- Am I ready for my first serious relationship (or second or third)? If not, then why am I considering one now? Is it because of peer pressure or societal expectations or because maybe it’s just not meant to be!
The Bottomline
It is important to ask yourself these questions before getting into a serious relationship. It will help you avoid heartache and disappointment in the future, as well as give you time to think about what it is that you really want out of love. Hopefully, these tips will help guide your way through this process!