Author: Cathy Silverberg

Dating Expert, Contributing Writer Cathy is a dating site consultant and dating expert. I possess a strong passion for people, heart-felt facilitation, and provocative storytelling. I use my voice in writing, speech to provoke awareness and positive personal change.

Dating Questions About Money

20 Questions To Ask Your Partner About Financial Matters Many couples debate over money matters. For some, money refers to power, status, and control. Yet others believe that money is only a means to an end or only something to worry about if an emergency pops up. Fights over finances derail just as many relationships as do debates over affection, communication, or compatibility, yet few of us ask the necessary questions of our partner to find out if we’re on the same page. Discussing how we feel about money and our history with it might be a cringe-worthy experience, but it’s…

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Play Twenty Questions With Your Date

Proper communication is essential for long-term relationship success. What comprises ‘proper’ or good communication, however, is defined differently by each individual. Some feel that teasing and sarcasm are essential to positive interactions, while others require long, drawn-out intimate conversations on a regular basis to feel connected. What follows are 20 questions essential for all dating couples to ask each other in order to get a better feel for each person’s communication style. Which are you better at, and why: listening or speaking?Are debate and disagreement something you are comfortable with? Why or why not?What is your preferred method of communication, and why?…

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Single? Check Out These Must-Read Books

If you’re single and want to change that, there’s a whole bunch of paths to take – read a bunch, attend a few workshops, stop trying, jump right into online dating, learn to love yourself… and those are just the most obvious suggestions. If you’re a reader, these books are the best-of-the-best for singles looking for love, tired of being single, and want to do something about it. I’ve read every one, and while each has its own market and usefulness, you could easily print off this list, take it to the bookstore, and grab them all (I’ve witnessed this!) to get yourself back…

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Woman riding a bike in a park

When you’re dating, sometimes issues crop up that require fixing. Or, do they? In this article, I’ll share with you three ways to completely transform your relationship, right in this moment, without having to do anything more or less than what you’re doing right now. In fact, you’ll probably have more time to do the things you love if you follow this advice. Ready to completely change your dating life for the better? Let’s dive right in. Act As If I’ve gone into acting as if a bit more in another article (see: My Boyfriend Won’t Make Plans With Me. Help?)…

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Woman looks at upset man sitting behind her

Perhaps your guy has said outright he won’t make plans with you – but it’s more likely you know that he’s not interested in making plans by his actions. Either way, you want to spend time with him and look forward to it in advance, and he’s got something else he needs. Whatever that is? It doesn’t matter because we’re going to fix this right now. Ready? Determine What’s Really Going On Our first step is to figure out what’s really going on and then act on it. Sounds simple, and it really is. The only problem? Most people think…

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Couple holding hands in cafe

Ruby asks, “I’ve been dating a guy for a few months, and things are going well. We talk for hours, hang out several times a week, and we’re both really attracted to each other. He tells me I fascinate him, he’s affectionate with me, and we have a ton of things in common. Basically, this is the kind of relationship I’ve been looking for! The problem is, he’s not looking for a relationship and has said as much. Repeatedly. When I try to discuss it with him, he pulls away and changes the subject or gets mad and says these…

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Woman giving herself a kiss in the mirror

It’s a bit cliché, and for some, a throwback to the 60s. Yet, if you want a loving relationship, you’ll need to learn what loving yourself means. You’ll actually have to do it, in every moment, as much as humanly possible. Think you can’t? Well, you’re here for a reason. You clicked on this link because some part of you wants to believe you can; you’re just at a loss as to how. Meaning what actual steps you can take, what will finally, once and for all, have you closer to the relationship of your dreams. Of course, you can…

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8 Signs Someone Is In Love With You

If you thought that figuring out whether your crush was interested in you was difficult, you will probably realize that seemed like a walk in the park compared to trying to decipher when your SO is in love with you. It might initially seem like it would be clear whether bae loves you or not, considering you’ve already figured out that your SO does, in fact, have feelings for you. However, it can be difficult to pick up on the differences between liking someone, being really into someone, and love. If you think that you’re in love with bae and you’re wondering whether he/she feels the same…

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when to say i love you to your boyfriend

“I love you.” They’re three simple words, yet they mean so, so much. I cannot think of many sentences that mean more than that. “You are hired” is good but still can’t compete. “You’ve got a perfect mark” is sweet, but even an A+ cannot compete with all-encompassing love, can it? That’s the reason why people make a big deal about saying “I love you.” It’s not the same as adding a heart emoji or a kissy face to a text. Let’s face it, pretty much everyone in our address book gets those. Saying “I love you” is professing that you’re head-over-heels for someone.…

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How to get your boyfriend to say I love you?

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for about six months. He was a virgin when we first started talking, and he isn’t now, but it was his first time. I’m his first girlfriend, too. But my problem is that he hasn’t said “I love you” yet. He said it one time in his sleep, and I think he remembers, although he’s never mentioned it since then. And I don’t know what to do. I don’t wanna say it first because I am a pure romantic, and I think it’ll be amazing when/if he does. What should I do?…

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7 Little Reasons You're Getting Rejected By Your Crush

Rejection sucks no matter the form it’s in. It stinks when friends bail on you to hang out, it sucks when you get let go from the volleyball team, and it majorly kills when you’re rejected from your dream college. But really, rejection is especially awful when it comes to love, like when my crush rejected me. Just thinking about it makes my heartache. You develop feelings for your crush; you think that there’s something there, then you put yourself out there and — wham! Rejection. Gah. Maybe, you thought that you didn’t approach the situation right, or you did it at the wrong…

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By now, you are probably pretty good at recognizing the distinct feeling that hits you when you develop a new crush. You know, like, the butterflies, increased heart rate, and anxiety that strikes whenever you’re in their general presence? Yeah. That. And, of course, you are certainly also quite familiar with the desire to know exactly what your crush is thinking–particularly of you–at all times. (Related: How To Get Your BF To Tell You He Loves You) The difficulty, you see, is that everyone is different, so the signs as to whether or not someone likes you will vary from person to person.…

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